How to Write Asexual Characters

Hello there, I’m back and today, as you could have guessed from the title, we’ll be talking about asexual relationships. Of course, first you have to understand what asexuality, or being “ace,” is. Like many sexualities and identities, it manifests as a spectrum. This does not mean that some people are “more” ace or “less” ace than others. Simply that, to them, asexuality is different.

Additionally, sexual orientation is different from romantic orientation. This means that some people may identify through something called “split attraction” in that their sexual orientation is distinct from their romantic one.  For example, I personally identify as a sex-repulsed asexual (and all of that will be explained later) but in casual conversation I call myself bi or bisexual because, romantically, I experience romantic feelings for all people.

For ease, this post will refer to demisexuals and graysexuals (gray-aces) as ace/asexual. Their identities are largely considered a type of asexuality and are included under the ace umbrella. Furthermore, while people in poly relationships exist, this post will use the singular “partner” throughout.

Yes, this can all be a bit confusing if you aren’t familiar with all the terms (or if you don’t know the slang), but it’s very easy to pick up and we’ll break things down a little more before getting to the writing tips.

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